Recently while watching a Korean drama, the old lady in the drama said something i found makes real sense and true. She said there are three things that you should never believe:
When old people say they want to die
When business man says they don't want to make profit
When an unmarried women say she doesn't want to get married
I found what the old lady said rather amusing. Isn't it true that we hear these sentences quite often and most of the time the person who said it doesn't mean it.
When a person gets old, would they say they want to die if they are living a good life? Would they want to leave their loved one's so soon? I heard my grandma say this all the time and i know she doesn't mean it. I always assume she's ranting out of boredom. Sure sometimes they feel useless and unwanted, then they say they want to die. When they really face death, i think they would fear it. Of course not all old people are the same.
Then there's the business man who doesn't want to make a profit they say. Hah! It's lies lies and lies. If they don't wanna make profit, they wouldn't call themselves business man. So what if they say they give back to the society? or they say they wanna help you make profit too? Initially, they will still need to make profit to give back to the society or you (in a business deal). Lets face it, this is cruel world. Businessman ALWAYS want profit either for good reasons or bad reasons.
Then there's the third one. Just ridiculous! No one would ever want to grow old alone. When the right one come's along, you would get married to them no matter how many times you say you won't get married. Why would you deny yourself that happiness that you deserve? Are you a sadist? You enjoy making yourself suffer? Excuses and Lies! I hate those type of people who says they can be happy being a spinster forever. It saddens me too. So you say you have friends or extended families to accompany you when you grow old. Oh, you think you're so important that they would be willing to be with you all the time? They have a life of their own to bother, why should they stick with you all the time just to "accompany" you? When they start ignoring you and leading their own lives, you'll feel neglected and lonely. Thus, also leads to you saying the first sentence above. It's not just woman i'm talking about, man too. You think you would be happy being a bachelor forever? How long do you think your assets can attract a woman? Until a certain age, no woman would find you attractive anymore. But of course, money still does make you attractive- to some woman. "Some".
So as i was saying... that old lady in the drama is very annoying but i got to give her credit for saying something good once in a while.
That awkward moment when you go to a social event and get introduce to someone, then you forget their names after a few minutes.
It's always for reason like this that I rarely attend social events especially crowded one's like proms, talks, ceremonies, parties etc. I usually just go with someone i know so that i won't get bored being alone and meeting random strangers that will forget me the next day. Always remember to bring a friend/date to social events, they are a necessity.
I recalled a few times when i went to prom or volunteering for activities, I get introduce to a bunch of people by my friends and then I forget their names just after they mentioned it. So for the whole night, I'll just be pretending like i know their names but never call them by it. And mostly it'll sound like this: "Hey, did you know that?" or "Hey, did you see that?".
Maybe it's my problem for not putting the effort but seriously, they don't care either. The introductions are just for introductions sake. It's like to tell a person who they came with and that's all. The next day you see the same person and you might even forget their faces.
Unless they ask for your contact number or facebook profile, then you pay more attention to their names and faces cuz they are sincerely making friends with you. Other than that, go ahead and forget those people you meet in social events. I know i do that and nothing's wrong with it.
Seriously people, why do you need so many facebook friends? I don't understand. Some people they can have over 2000 friends on facebook and yet they only know about half of them. What's the point of it then?
I don't know what people do with 2000 over friends when i can hardly even keep up with 200.
Do they feel proud that they have "collected" so much friends that it looks like they're super popular? Yes, collect! It looks to me like some people on facebook collect friends rather than make friends. They don't talk to them, they don't follow their activities, they don't even greet. Never. Just click the accept button and that's it. So, what's the point?
I have 200 friends and i need to unsubscribe from some friends because it's spamming my wall. I don't even know what some are talking about. And these are the people i'm suppose to know.
Yeah, so they call it social networking. You make friends with people all around the world. But seriously, we don't just talk to random strangers and make it sounds like you guys know each other personally. You just can't. At first maybe you can talk about some mutual interest and do introductions. After that, there's just awkward talk. And i get so uncomfortable telling people from abroad about myself and about my country, I'm always not sure what to say and what not to say. It gets creepy when they start to be more "intimate". So in the end, you just stop talking to them then they'll eventually "disappear" into your facebook friend list. After a while, you need to delete them from the list anyway. What's the point then? I got request from people i don't know and if i accept them, we never talk anyway.
I guess it's like a trend to collect friends, especially those attention seekers. They just want the likes and random comments. Oh, don't forget the pride of looking like they're popular. Sure, 2000-3000 friends does make you look like you've been all around and making lots of friends and you're a "sociable" person. Well, i can't judge you, you know it yourself.
C'mon people, if you're so eager for so called "friends" then go to Twitter. There, any random stranger can follow you and talk random stuff.
As for me right now, Facebook is really purely for communicating with people i see every now and then, people i personally know and I want to keep up with them. It's also for me to save up on my phone bill. Those acquaintance i mostly ignore. If they keep posting stupid stuff, i simply unsubscribe from their post but well, we still remain facebook "friends". In case there's any need to communicate with them. Those i personally don;t know, well, they are at the corner of the most dusty place in my friend list (if there is a dusty corner). I can't imagine myself with more than 300 friends even. How many new people am i going to meet anyway after this? I'm a bit of a hermit and I'm in university and this is a place where you socialize the most. Still....
