Psychology: What it did for me.

My friends have been asking me this question ALL the time, "Why didn't you major in English language instead?". I always have to answer the same thing, "While I do love English, I don't want to  make it a career."
Sometimes I do ask myself why didn't I? I never dreamt of majoring in psychology. I once wanted to be a lawyer, veterinarian, marine biologist and even an actress. 
When it was time for me to pick a university to apply, I just picked the one that my friend went to. Courses? I picked psychology cuz the other Arts and Social Science's course doesn't sound promising. When I was accepted by another government university offering computer science, it took me a torturing night of head banging, crying and dice throwing to determine whether i want to accept it.(I was already studying Pre-U at my university that time). At the end i decided to stay. After i made this decision, I asked myself constantly if i made the right choice. By choosing this private University, my parents need to pay more. I hated being me.
Everyone has the perception that someone studying Psychology can read minds. Please, discard the thought. We don't! All we do is observe and observation is a strong factor that helps us understand human behavior. Observation leads psychologist to seek an explanation for the bahavior. I must say it's pretty interesting. I understand much better about society and human behavior. There's so many behaviors that can be explained through studying psychology.
Now, I can confidently say that I have chosen the right path. Majoring in Psychology isn't my mistake and it might be one of the wises choice i have made in life.
Well, studying psychology helped me to understand myself better. I was just sitting down reading my notes for my test when i suddenly got struck by answers of why I act certain ways at times. Yes, psychology does that. I've started keeping tracks of my own behavior, understanding it through terms and theories, realizing my unconscious feelings and analyzing my conscious behavior. A bit fun and freaky but you tend to do that once you study this field. It's so much more easier to understand when you relate the terms to yourself.
Like today, I realise my own desires when reading about Erikson's psychosocial stages. I keep wondering why I do things i don't really know how to explain sometimes, today I finally found my answers.
So yes, in a way i have no regrets majoring in this field. I found myself in the midst of a identity crisis you can say. It certainly helps that things that I do can now be explained. It helps me to find the answers that I'm seeking instead of hunting around, waiting for answers to pop up.
For those having second thoughts about your identity, studying Psychology really is a way to help you find your path.
Yes, studying the terms and understanding the theorist's idea is very complicated and sometimes it will clash with your personal ideas. But no one ask you to change your perspective to be in tune with theirs, everyone is entitled to their thoughts tho it could be wrong. It can be enjoying studying about the terms and it could be tedious but nevertheless, i don't mind a bit. If it's to understand the world a bit better, why not?getting a upper hand on a situation feels much better than being clueless most of the time.  
Who knows, one day you'll see someone acting weird. While everyone's figuring out what's the reason the person is acting like that, you'll be grinning at the back, sipping lemonade while others ponder.

Preparing for Mothers day

Help me out here people! Mother's day will be a day after i return for semester break and I'll stop by the capital mall to get something for my mom. BUT here's an issue, what do you get someone who:
-doesn't appreciate fashion and wear anything comfy
-don't wear make up, perfume, jewelry
-don't have time to read but rather watch TV anytime
-doesn't cook
-sweet food is bad for her health
-don't appreciate flowers, aroma therapeutic candles
-has more body/face care products than i can ever imagine
-home deco, paintings, crafts? Meh~ forget about it. She doesn't know what are those.
well, i'm in a dilemma here. Almost everything i can think of is not good for her. I'm gonna give a card with one gift but I can't think of any!!
Can you give me some suggestions? Would appreciate it very very much!!

Quote of the day

"Make up is a woman's war paint. When you head into battle, you must wear it. That way you definitely can't cry. If you do, your make up will run. No matter how little you applied, you will make a fool out of yourself. That's why no matter how hard things get, you should NEVER cry"
By Kocho in Saiunkoku Monogatari.

Tablo Controversy

What? A face like this can't be smart? Get real people!

I guess if you're fan of Kpop you would know who is Tablo. For those who doesn't, he used to be from the boy band Epik High until he sign contract with YG as a solo singer. He's a pretty talented singer with damn good English. I'm lazy to give you the full details, so if you want to know more, go to this site. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tablo.
Now what i wanna discuss is his recent controversy. So he allegedly earned his Bachelor's and Master's degree from Stanford University only after three and a half years. Sounds quite impossible right? So there has been much of a debate about this case. Of course the paparazzi would LOVE a good story like that. If it was fake, they would manage to flush Tablo's career down the drain. People were sceptical, called him a liar, shamed him bla bla bla~~ y'know how them haters love to do. Some said he paid the lawyers to lie, forged fake documents, stole someone else's identity....  That was a rough time that sent him into hiding, causing even more speculation. Again, what more news? Here's from Soompi- http://www.soompi.com/news/us-it-magazine-wired-reports-tablos-standford-degree-controversy
After much sleuthing and investigating, guess what? It was proven that he indeed rightfully earned his BA and MA at Standford within 3 1/2 years. He was all along being accused of something he didn't do, must have hurt pretty bad. Now that the truth is out, I bet those who once accused him felt uh.. i wonder embarrassed? Finally, Tablo has a reason to say "What does your smart ass got to say about that huh?"
People, before you start making a complete ass of yourself, don't jump into conclusion before you know what's actually going on. Just because he looks dumb doesn't mean he is.
So, congrats to Tablo and to his comeback album.

Be a man or a lady?

 

Chaz Bono

Thomas Beatie

You see in societies these days, some man doesn't wanna be a man and woman doesn't wanna be a woman. Take a look at that former Miss Hawaii contestant who was dubbed "World First Pregnant Man" few years ago and Chaz Bono son of Cher. About man being woman? You'll see tonnes of it in Thailand. It's kinda weird for me, why defy what you are born as? God made you to be that gender for a reason, I don't get why they should change. I have friends who acts like a man but thankfully, they don't have the intentions of being one.
Sure being a woman is tough. Men, they had it easy. I'll give you some examples,
1. Being a lady boss, if you be a lady (gentle, warm, sweet), your employee's steps all over your head. If you act tough like a man, you're either being called a bitch or "not acting like how a lady should".
2. Don't even get me started with the irritating monthly period and getting pregnant. Wanna know what's really tough? THAT'S TOUGH!
3. Guys still stereotype women to be weak and "Belong in the Kitchen". Hello~~ women nowadays, they're much successful. We women have gone a long way. And the Kitchen stuff? I see more male chef these days than female. 80% of chefs in AFC are men. Hypocrite?
I shall just stop at there. So you see, it IS hard being a woman but that doesn't mean I want to stop being one. I'm proud of my gender and just because I have to put up with a few downfalls of being a woman doesn't mean  I want to be a man. I try getting through my friends head a few good reasons to be happy she's a girl.

• Fashion!!! We have much MUCH more variety of nice dresses and shoes compared to men. 
• We get to be cute to get out of some situation (i'm just saying) Our gender permits it.
• We don't really need to do much laboured work (except giving birth tho, that can't be helped) - this is cuz guys feel they always need to be the macho man. Well, we're not stopping them. ;)

So that's a few reason's i gave my friend. If you want to know the other reasons to be a woman, then I'll present to you these few links. They're rather hilarious and a bit "dirty minded" but don't mind that. So yeah, enjoy.
http://www.humorbin.com/showitem.asp?item=604
http://www.aaaugh.com/jokes/be_a_woman.html
http://www.infohip.com/forwards/stories/reasons-to-be-a-woman.htm
http://laughnet.net/great-reasons-to-be-a-woman-p-635.html

Yup, so yes, be proud if you're a woman!! If you're a man reading this? Well.. lets just say you get some insights of why we love being ladies.

Just Sleep~~

When we were kids, our parents will force us to take naps in the afternoon. We usually hate it, being kids, we want to play and stay as long as possible in the big outdoors. Now all grown up and an adult, we suddenly realize we barely have enough time to sleep. What with all those works we have to do, sleeping is a dream come true (i mean when we're really tired). Like me now is university, I'll appreciate whatever little time i have to sleep. I just wanna crawl up into my bed and sleep like that lazy cat on top.The thing is sleeping is a good thing as shown by research. I myself have other theory about the benefits of sleep. Now, I for one won't believe that sleep can help you lose weight. The only logic in this is because when you sleep, you don't really care to eat. I have a lot of sleep still, i don't see any changes in my weight. :/
For me, sleeping is a therapy. I sleep when I'm frustrated or angry. After waking up, i feel more relaxed & calm to deal with whatever problems i have. Heaps of assignment that once seems impossible may just look possible after a good sleep. Arguing with people? Go have a sleep and you'll see that you won't feel mad at them after that. It helps in maintaining relationship y'know (if you think that way). Even in times of confusion, i sleep. Sometimes you'll find the answer to your confusion miraculously after a good sleep (or maybe you find the answer in your dreams-whichever). Cuz sometimes we over think and make it much complicated than it really is, sleeping kinda straighten things out again (if you know what i mean).  Forgetting things? Simple-sleep and hope that you'll remember. I won't guarantee you that it really works. Just suggesting.
Sleeping is now a much prized thing in my daily life. If I get a totally free weekends, you'll find me in bed till way past noon. And i sleep in as much as i can during weekends. It's a bad habit of students but do you close the alarm when it goes off and go back to sleep even just for a few minutes? I do. Lemme tell you, it feels a lot more better even if its an extra few minutes of sleep.
Tho I must say, it's bad to oversleep and people usually associate frequent sleep as lazy. And sleeping to kill time? Meh, i don't do that often. But i won't say it's ridiculous cuz i do that once in a while.
So if you meet with some of the problems i mention, just sleep! Forget about everything and relax~~~ zzzz

Studying, Exams, Holidays!!!

In a week now, I'll be sitting for my finals AGAIN. Makes me feel so tired just thinking about it and suddenly feeling older too (not that i feel any younger each day). So what am I doing a week before the big test? Well, I don't really know what other normal college/university student would do but i can tell you this, I'm doing a lot of other stuff rather than stay cooped up in my room with my head glued to my books and notes. Now to my defence (if my parents happen to see this) I'm NOT saying I'm fully enjoying life without bothering about studying for finals. God knows if I am. But anyway, it's just that, studying all day long can prove to be even tiring than running the field for 10 times (for me anyway). I'm definitely not the type who can sit still and study which is why I always change position when I study, from the table to the chair and to the bed then on the floor then back to the table. You get what i mean. Like that at least I get to study comfortably. I set my schedule like this - study in the afternoon, computer at night.
I refuse to stay in my room if I get to hang out with my friends even if exams are close (unless of course I get struck by huge sense of guilt- and its pretty often when finals is few days away) So okay, I'll only get serious when the real thing is near. During the time when I'm preparing for finals, my mind would always wander to the holidays ahead after few weeks of torturous mind wrecking papers. Imagine, lounging at the sofa at home watching TV with no worries of assignment, presentation & midterms aaaaah~~~~ paradise. Food? No problemo, get the keys, drive to where you wanna eat. Not to forget, I can spend time with my dear pooch! ;) so yeah, can't wait for the holidays.
When finals is finally here, that's when i get really serious. No hanging out, no computer (i actually lock them up so i dont have to see it and give in to temptation), study with little breaks in between. I usually sleep after each exam so my mind get to rest a bit and i get to relieve those pressure. During this crucial period, I will feel very vulnerable. Every little thing makes me mad, emotional and troubled. Yes, i turn into an emotional & unreasonable monster. It's the feeling like the whole world is against you when you learn that what you wrote in the exams is wrong but you actually know the answer. Uh huh~~ Finals to me is like world war II (tho i don't know how it felt like that time cuz i wasn't born yet)
After finals is the best feeling someone can ever feel. I would feel so relief, like a huge burden was lifted. NO more feeling frustrated or emotional. No pressure and all. Suddenly you feel like you can take on the world, you feel happy at everything and anything. Years ago, i would feel like singing 'What Time Is It?' in High School Musical but now that i think about it, it's rather gross(it's like singing Justin Beiber's song). I'd rather sing "Just dance" by lady gaga now. :D
Then there comes the packing to go home stuff, during that time I feel even happier. But when i'm in the airport waiting, that's when i feel frustrated again. In the plane, I feel happy again. Landing at my hometown airport, I feel like singing Tik Tok by Kesha (but of course i only hummed). Weird mood swings eh? Well... that's what i go through every time. My style of going through finals. So, what's your style?

Just a little something that I think is so true.

The Mediator series by Meg Cabot

I really really LOVE this series by Meg. Don't get me wrong, i always been a huge fan of Meg Cabot and no, it wasn't started by Princess Diaries. Meg is an amazing novelist, why? Well... she always manage to think of a great story like the Mediator. And for bonus, she has good sense of humour.
While reading this book, I can't stop laughing at Suze's sarcasm, it's harsh but true. Love the fact that the two main character's in the book has time to bond and build up relationship instead of those sudden love story I used to read in many novels.
A brief intro: Susannah Simon is a Mediator who helps ghost move to the "other side". She has a room mate which is Jesse and he's a hundred over year old ghost who died in her house. So they became friends and he helped her when she's kicking ghost's butts (which happens a lot). Then you know what happen if you read on. Also helping her is Father Dominic who shares her same gift.
Suze isn't the whiny type of girl instead she is the type to stand up for herself and others. But she do like to stir up unnecessary problems that lands her in deep problem, then there's Jesse to her rescue!
Her relationship development with Jesse always intrigue's me and Jesse is just plain sweet. Everyone would fall in love with this dude even if he's a fictional dead character. Apart from the gentlemanly manners, he's very protective of Suze.
So i got the fourth book today and I read, without break, for 3 hours and i manage to finish it. Yep, that's how engrossed i get when i read a book i really love. 
A highly recommended book. I'd say it's a great read which leaves me sad when it ends only at book 6. Still, re-reading it is equally fun. The ending of the book? Well, you couldn't get a more happier ending than that!

The shopping therapy

Shopaholic. I used to think that that I'm not one of those who walk around in malls, buying anything in sight. But no, as shocking as i think it is, I am a shopaholic. It's true that i don't buy everything and anything, i don't buy dresses and shoes like what you see in Sophie Kinsella's shopaholic series cuz the price does matter. It's funny how i can control myself at the sight of huge sum of money but i'm utterly hopeless when it comes to cheaper stuff. Those stuff that you think won't affect your budget but what you don't realize is little by little it also ends up being a lot. Yup, i'm that.
I was in Tesco few days ago and I didn't notice myself dumping unnecessary stuff in my cart, when i'm home then i realize what I've done. I reaally need to do something about it.
Don't fret dear shopaholics! I think why we do this is because it's really a therapy when you shop. I don't really know how to explain this but yes, it felt really good to shop at times. Like window shopping, it's also really nice, tho the shopkeepers really can't stand you. How do i put this? Hmm... i think when i shop, i'm contributing to myself in a sense. For example, buying skin care products, i can go from buying face mask, facial cleanser, whitening creams....etc. I feel satisfied that I'm taking effort in caring for my own looks, it's vain i know but it's the simplest example i can give. So is buying uh... new linens, bedsheets, air refresheners, it makes you think you're giving your room a makeover?
So, I'm not saying being a shopaholic is good. God! think of the credit card bills and empty purse! but it's okay as long as you don't overdo. I'm trying to do that by avoiding malls as a precaution ;)

Tsunami: Run for your lives not watch!

So i already informed about a Tsunami happening at my place. So there's nothing more i want to say about that. But what i really find annoying is those idiots who went to the beach to film it and watch while most sane people stayed far far away from the shore.
Fine, i get it, its a rare phenomenon happening in our place but for God's sake use their heads! Who want to film? Get to a higher ground to film then. Nobody in the right mind would stand right at the shore, realize the waves are heading for them and starts running when it's too late. Then this results in increasing number of casualties. <face palm>
 I just watched the video this person took from some kinda tall building and i saw lots of morons parking their cars next to the shore and it got swept away by the huge waves and they start panic when the road gets flooded. That's when you hear the long shrilling sounds of horns being blared at just cuz they can't get away in time. 
I won't say i feel sorry for those who deliberately went there when they knew the risk. But those who didn't know and were there at the wrong place at the right time, well, my sympathies.
I'm just trying to create awareness to some people's idiocy at dealing with critical situations. No hard feelings!