Psychology: What it did for me.

My friends have been asking me this question ALL the time, "Why didn't you major in English language instead?". I always have to answer the same thing, "While I do love English, I don't want to  make it a career."
Sometimes I do ask myself why didn't I? I never dreamt of majoring in psychology. I once wanted to be a lawyer, veterinarian, marine biologist and even an actress. 
When it was time for me to pick a university to apply, I just picked the one that my friend went to. Courses? I picked psychology cuz the other Arts and Social Science's course doesn't sound promising. When I was accepted by another government university offering computer science, it took me a torturing night of head banging, crying and dice throwing to determine whether i want to accept it.(I was already studying Pre-U at my university that time). At the end i decided to stay. After i made this decision, I asked myself constantly if i made the right choice. By choosing this private University, my parents need to pay more. I hated being me.
Everyone has the perception that someone studying Psychology can read minds. Please, discard the thought. We don't! All we do is observe and observation is a strong factor that helps us understand human behavior. Observation leads psychologist to seek an explanation for the bahavior. I must say it's pretty interesting. I understand much better about society and human behavior. There's so many behaviors that can be explained through studying psychology.
Now, I can confidently say that I have chosen the right path. Majoring in Psychology isn't my mistake and it might be one of the wises choice i have made in life.
Well, studying psychology helped me to understand myself better. I was just sitting down reading my notes for my test when i suddenly got struck by answers of why I act certain ways at times. Yes, psychology does that. I've started keeping tracks of my own behavior, understanding it through terms and theories, realizing my unconscious feelings and analyzing my conscious behavior. A bit fun and freaky but you tend to do that once you study this field. It's so much more easier to understand when you relate the terms to yourself.
Like today, I realise my own desires when reading about Erikson's psychosocial stages. I keep wondering why I do things i don't really know how to explain sometimes, today I finally found my answers.
So yes, in a way i have no regrets majoring in this field. I found myself in the midst of a identity crisis you can say. It certainly helps that things that I do can now be explained. It helps me to find the answers that I'm seeking instead of hunting around, waiting for answers to pop up.
For those having second thoughts about your identity, studying Psychology really is a way to help you find your path.
Yes, studying the terms and understanding the theorist's idea is very complicated and sometimes it will clash with your personal ideas. But no one ask you to change your perspective to be in tune with theirs, everyone is entitled to their thoughts tho it could be wrong. It can be enjoying studying about the terms and it could be tedious but nevertheless, i don't mind a bit. If it's to understand the world a bit better, why not?getting a upper hand on a situation feels much better than being clueless most of the time.  
Who knows, one day you'll see someone acting weird. While everyone's figuring out what's the reason the person is acting like that, you'll be grinning at the back, sipping lemonade while others ponder.

Preparing for Mothers day

Help me out here people! Mother's day will be a day after i return for semester break and I'll stop by the capital mall to get something for my mom. BUT here's an issue, what do you get someone who:
-doesn't appreciate fashion and wear anything comfy
-don't wear make up, perfume, jewelry
-don't have time to read but rather watch TV anytime
-doesn't cook
-sweet food is bad for her health
-don't appreciate flowers, aroma therapeutic candles
-has more body/face care products than i can ever imagine
-home deco, paintings, crafts? Meh~ forget about it. She doesn't know what are those.
well, i'm in a dilemma here. Almost everything i can think of is not good for her. I'm gonna give a card with one gift but I can't think of any!!
Can you give me some suggestions? Would appreciate it very very much!!

Quote of the day

"Make up is a woman's war paint. When you head into battle, you must wear it. That way you definitely can't cry. If you do, your make up will run. No matter how little you applied, you will make a fool out of yourself. That's why no matter how hard things get, you should NEVER cry"
By Kocho in Saiunkoku Monogatari.

Tablo Controversy

What? A face like this can't be smart? Get real people!

I guess if you're fan of Kpop you would know who is Tablo. For those who doesn't, he used to be from the boy band Epik High until he sign contract with YG as a solo singer. He's a pretty talented singer with damn good English. I'm lazy to give you the full details, so if you want to know more, go to this site. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tablo.
Now what i wanna discuss is his recent controversy. So he allegedly earned his Bachelor's and Master's degree from Stanford University only after three and a half years. Sounds quite impossible right? So there has been much of a debate about this case. Of course the paparazzi would LOVE a good story like that. If it was fake, they would manage to flush Tablo's career down the drain. People were sceptical, called him a liar, shamed him bla bla bla~~ y'know how them haters love to do. Some said he paid the lawyers to lie, forged fake documents, stole someone else's identity....  That was a rough time that sent him into hiding, causing even more speculation. Again, what more news? Here's from Soompi- http://www.soompi.com/news/us-it-magazine-wired-reports-tablos-standford-degree-controversy
After much sleuthing and investigating, guess what? It was proven that he indeed rightfully earned his BA and MA at Standford within 3 1/2 years. He was all along being accused of something he didn't do, must have hurt pretty bad. Now that the truth is out, I bet those who once accused him felt uh.. i wonder embarrassed? Finally, Tablo has a reason to say "What does your smart ass got to say about that huh?"
People, before you start making a complete ass of yourself, don't jump into conclusion before you know what's actually going on. Just because he looks dumb doesn't mean he is.
So, congrats to Tablo and to his comeback album.

Be a man or a lady?

 

Chaz Bono

Thomas Beatie

You see in societies these days, some man doesn't wanna be a man and woman doesn't wanna be a woman. Take a look at that former Miss Hawaii contestant who was dubbed "World First Pregnant Man" few years ago and Chaz Bono son of Cher. About man being woman? You'll see tonnes of it in Thailand. It's kinda weird for me, why defy what you are born as? God made you to be that gender for a reason, I don't get why they should change. I have friends who acts like a man but thankfully, they don't have the intentions of being one.
Sure being a woman is tough. Men, they had it easy. I'll give you some examples,
1. Being a lady boss, if you be a lady (gentle, warm, sweet), your employee's steps all over your head. If you act tough like a man, you're either being called a bitch or "not acting like how a lady should".
2. Don't even get me started with the irritating monthly period and getting pregnant. Wanna know what's really tough? THAT'S TOUGH!
3. Guys still stereotype women to be weak and "Belong in the Kitchen". Hello~~ women nowadays, they're much successful. We women have gone a long way. And the Kitchen stuff? I see more male chef these days than female. 80% of chefs in AFC are men. Hypocrite?
I shall just stop at there. So you see, it IS hard being a woman but that doesn't mean I want to stop being one. I'm proud of my gender and just because I have to put up with a few downfalls of being a woman doesn't mean  I want to be a man. I try getting through my friends head a few good reasons to be happy she's a girl.

• Fashion!!! We have much MUCH more variety of nice dresses and shoes compared to men. 
• We get to be cute to get out of some situation (i'm just saying) Our gender permits it.
• We don't really need to do much laboured work (except giving birth tho, that can't be helped) - this is cuz guys feel they always need to be the macho man. Well, we're not stopping them. ;)

So that's a few reason's i gave my friend. If you want to know the other reasons to be a woman, then I'll present to you these few links. They're rather hilarious and a bit "dirty minded" but don't mind that. So yeah, enjoy.
http://www.humorbin.com/showitem.asp?item=604
http://www.aaaugh.com/jokes/be_a_woman.html
http://www.infohip.com/forwards/stories/reasons-to-be-a-woman.htm
http://laughnet.net/great-reasons-to-be-a-woman-p-635.html

Yup, so yes, be proud if you're a woman!! If you're a man reading this? Well.. lets just say you get some insights of why we love being ladies.

Just Sleep~~

When we were kids, our parents will force us to take naps in the afternoon. We usually hate it, being kids, we want to play and stay as long as possible in the big outdoors. Now all grown up and an adult, we suddenly realize we barely have enough time to sleep. What with all those works we have to do, sleeping is a dream come true (i mean when we're really tired). Like me now is university, I'll appreciate whatever little time i have to sleep. I just wanna crawl up into my bed and sleep like that lazy cat on top.The thing is sleeping is a good thing as shown by research. I myself have other theory about the benefits of sleep. Now, I for one won't believe that sleep can help you lose weight. The only logic in this is because when you sleep, you don't really care to eat. I have a lot of sleep still, i don't see any changes in my weight. :/
For me, sleeping is a therapy. I sleep when I'm frustrated or angry. After waking up, i feel more relaxed & calm to deal with whatever problems i have. Heaps of assignment that once seems impossible may just look possible after a good sleep. Arguing with people? Go have a sleep and you'll see that you won't feel mad at them after that. It helps in maintaining relationship y'know (if you think that way). Even in times of confusion, i sleep. Sometimes you'll find the answer to your confusion miraculously after a good sleep (or maybe you find the answer in your dreams-whichever). Cuz sometimes we over think and make it much complicated than it really is, sleeping kinda straighten things out again (if you know what i mean).  Forgetting things? Simple-sleep and hope that you'll remember. I won't guarantee you that it really works. Just suggesting.
Sleeping is now a much prized thing in my daily life. If I get a totally free weekends, you'll find me in bed till way past noon. And i sleep in as much as i can during weekends. It's a bad habit of students but do you close the alarm when it goes off and go back to sleep even just for a few minutes? I do. Lemme tell you, it feels a lot more better even if its an extra few minutes of sleep.
Tho I must say, it's bad to oversleep and people usually associate frequent sleep as lazy. And sleeping to kill time? Meh, i don't do that often. But i won't say it's ridiculous cuz i do that once in a while.
So if you meet with some of the problems i mention, just sleep! Forget about everything and relax~~~ zzzz

Studying, Exams, Holidays!!!

In a week now, I'll be sitting for my finals AGAIN. Makes me feel so tired just thinking about it and suddenly feeling older too (not that i feel any younger each day). So what am I doing a week before the big test? Well, I don't really know what other normal college/university student would do but i can tell you this, I'm doing a lot of other stuff rather than stay cooped up in my room with my head glued to my books and notes. Now to my defence (if my parents happen to see this) I'm NOT saying I'm fully enjoying life without bothering about studying for finals. God knows if I am. But anyway, it's just that, studying all day long can prove to be even tiring than running the field for 10 times (for me anyway). I'm definitely not the type who can sit still and study which is why I always change position when I study, from the table to the chair and to the bed then on the floor then back to the table. You get what i mean. Like that at least I get to study comfortably. I set my schedule like this - study in the afternoon, computer at night.
I refuse to stay in my room if I get to hang out with my friends even if exams are close (unless of course I get struck by huge sense of guilt- and its pretty often when finals is few days away) So okay, I'll only get serious when the real thing is near. During the time when I'm preparing for finals, my mind would always wander to the holidays ahead after few weeks of torturous mind wrecking papers. Imagine, lounging at the sofa at home watching TV with no worries of assignment, presentation & midterms aaaaah~~~~ paradise. Food? No problemo, get the keys, drive to where you wanna eat. Not to forget, I can spend time with my dear pooch! ;) so yeah, can't wait for the holidays.
When finals is finally here, that's when i get really serious. No hanging out, no computer (i actually lock them up so i dont have to see it and give in to temptation), study with little breaks in between. I usually sleep after each exam so my mind get to rest a bit and i get to relieve those pressure. During this crucial period, I will feel very vulnerable. Every little thing makes me mad, emotional and troubled. Yes, i turn into an emotional & unreasonable monster. It's the feeling like the whole world is against you when you learn that what you wrote in the exams is wrong but you actually know the answer. Uh huh~~ Finals to me is like world war II (tho i don't know how it felt like that time cuz i wasn't born yet)
After finals is the best feeling someone can ever feel. I would feel so relief, like a huge burden was lifted. NO more feeling frustrated or emotional. No pressure and all. Suddenly you feel like you can take on the world, you feel happy at everything and anything. Years ago, i would feel like singing 'What Time Is It?' in High School Musical but now that i think about it, it's rather gross(it's like singing Justin Beiber's song). I'd rather sing "Just dance" by lady gaga now. :D
Then there comes the packing to go home stuff, during that time I feel even happier. But when i'm in the airport waiting, that's when i feel frustrated again. In the plane, I feel happy again. Landing at my hometown airport, I feel like singing Tik Tok by Kesha (but of course i only hummed). Weird mood swings eh? Well... that's what i go through every time. My style of going through finals. So, what's your style?

Just a little something that I think is so true.

The Mediator series by Meg Cabot

I really really LOVE this series by Meg. Don't get me wrong, i always been a huge fan of Meg Cabot and no, it wasn't started by Princess Diaries. Meg is an amazing novelist, why? Well... she always manage to think of a great story like the Mediator. And for bonus, she has good sense of humour.
While reading this book, I can't stop laughing at Suze's sarcasm, it's harsh but true. Love the fact that the two main character's in the book has time to bond and build up relationship instead of those sudden love story I used to read in many novels.
A brief intro: Susannah Simon is a Mediator who helps ghost move to the "other side". She has a room mate which is Jesse and he's a hundred over year old ghost who died in her house. So they became friends and he helped her when she's kicking ghost's butts (which happens a lot). Then you know what happen if you read on. Also helping her is Father Dominic who shares her same gift.
Suze isn't the whiny type of girl instead she is the type to stand up for herself and others. But she do like to stir up unnecessary problems that lands her in deep problem, then there's Jesse to her rescue!
Her relationship development with Jesse always intrigue's me and Jesse is just plain sweet. Everyone would fall in love with this dude even if he's a fictional dead character. Apart from the gentlemanly manners, he's very protective of Suze.
So i got the fourth book today and I read, without break, for 3 hours and i manage to finish it. Yep, that's how engrossed i get when i read a book i really love. 
A highly recommended book. I'd say it's a great read which leaves me sad when it ends only at book 6. Still, re-reading it is equally fun. The ending of the book? Well, you couldn't get a more happier ending than that!

The shopping therapy

Shopaholic. I used to think that that I'm not one of those who walk around in malls, buying anything in sight. But no, as shocking as i think it is, I am a shopaholic. It's true that i don't buy everything and anything, i don't buy dresses and shoes like what you see in Sophie Kinsella's shopaholic series cuz the price does matter. It's funny how i can control myself at the sight of huge sum of money but i'm utterly hopeless when it comes to cheaper stuff. Those stuff that you think won't affect your budget but what you don't realize is little by little it also ends up being a lot. Yup, i'm that.
I was in Tesco few days ago and I didn't notice myself dumping unnecessary stuff in my cart, when i'm home then i realize what I've done. I reaally need to do something about it.
Don't fret dear shopaholics! I think why we do this is because it's really a therapy when you shop. I don't really know how to explain this but yes, it felt really good to shop at times. Like window shopping, it's also really nice, tho the shopkeepers really can't stand you. How do i put this? Hmm... i think when i shop, i'm contributing to myself in a sense. For example, buying skin care products, i can go from buying face mask, facial cleanser, whitening creams....etc. I feel satisfied that I'm taking effort in caring for my own looks, it's vain i know but it's the simplest example i can give. So is buying uh... new linens, bedsheets, air refresheners, it makes you think you're giving your room a makeover?
So, I'm not saying being a shopaholic is good. God! think of the credit card bills and empty purse! but it's okay as long as you don't overdo. I'm trying to do that by avoiding malls as a precaution ;)

Tsunami: Run for your lives not watch!

So i already informed about a Tsunami happening at my place. So there's nothing more i want to say about that. But what i really find annoying is those idiots who went to the beach to film it and watch while most sane people stayed far far away from the shore.
Fine, i get it, its a rare phenomenon happening in our place but for God's sake use their heads! Who want to film? Get to a higher ground to film then. Nobody in the right mind would stand right at the shore, realize the waves are heading for them and starts running when it's too late. Then this results in increasing number of casualties. <face palm>
 I just watched the video this person took from some kinda tall building and i saw lots of morons parking their cars next to the shore and it got swept away by the huge waves and they start panic when the road gets flooded. That's when you hear the long shrilling sounds of horns being blared at just cuz they can't get away in time. 
I won't say i feel sorry for those who deliberately went there when they knew the risk. But those who didn't know and were there at the wrong place at the right time, well, my sympathies.
I'm just trying to create awareness to some people's idiocy at dealing with critical situations. No hard feelings!

Tsunami watch

Tsunami? What is the first thing that pop into mind? Huge waves, fast, people running and screaming, destroyed buildings and casualties... I'm sure then Japanese has their own share of terrors about this since they face it quite often but I'm also impressed at their swift and organized actions. But Indonesia, that's quite a different story. They just had a 8.2 magnitude earthquake. I just heard of a possible tsunami that might hit near my home (I'm not from Indonesia mind you), it sent chills down my spine. 
It's so ironic, once the word "Tsunami" doesn't effect me much. I just flinch at the news and pictures on the TV or newspaper but i never felt that emphatic about it. Ever since the Japan quake last year, it changed my perspective a bit. Now the thought of it was just horrible, i feel scared and it's really creepy. It made me feel so fragile and that time is limited for people on earth. Our existence is so insignificant at times like this. Once blow from mother nature and we'll fall. 
It makes me think that maybe the end of earth is near after all. I use to think it was absurd but its possible. Well, the world might not end at 2012 but i was sure of natural disasters and sure enough, it's starting. And i just think that we have no one to blame but ourselves.

So i called home and they assured me they were fine. But instead now, i should be the cautious one since tsunami alert has been issued to the state i'm studying in.
But kind to think about it, even if it's scary, i have a feeling that I'll be fine if i have to deal with it. We all have to deal with it sooner or later so must well get yourself ready. I'm not talking about death here but if you want my view about that i can tell you one thing. I saw this once in an anime i watch, inside the character said ,"Death will happen eventually, its just a matter of now and then. So it doesn't matter if it occur soon since it will happen in the end." Does make sense actually.... : / but anyway, ah time to watch The Day After Tomorrow, God bless us all.

Korean Stereotypes In my place

I think the Korea media industry influence the thinking of society especially Asians. They portrayed themselves to be pretty causing girls and boys in my country to have a stereotype that says all Koreans are pretty and hot. And i mean ALL! not just celebs but mere koreans that comes here for visitation, studies and work stuff.
I'll relate to you an incident at my University. So these bunch of Korean students came for a student transfer program for a few months. At a time, my society was organizing a welcoming party to all foreign students-China, Morocco, Mauritius, Nigeria, USA, African, Korea..... you get the picture. At first not much participated in this party but when they heard the Koreans are there, EVERYONE wants to go just to have a glimpse of them. And true enough, that night, it was packed with students and guess who got all the attention? Yup, you guess right. The Korean students. Then whenever they go, they manage to turn heads. Guys thinks the girls are pretty, girls think the guys are cute. This is just absurd! I mean, they're just korean students for heaven sake! Not some celebrity. They just have the stereotype that all must be good looking and they're blinded by this.(BTW they're normal looking-the korean students)
Then there's this another case where i was going to a friends house which was coincidently not far from where the korean students are staying. I saw this group of girls in front of me walking past the house (The korean students house) and one of them screamed "Oppa, annyeonghaseyo! Sarang he!" (If you know the Korean culture, they usually use oppa for brother) in this context they're screaming "Hello, Brother. i love you". These girls they don't even know them and they don't know them either and they're screaming like a fan girl randomly at them. I could have slap them for being so slutty, its a disgrace to women!
To add in something even stupider, after they shouted that, they added "Sayonara" (Goodbye in Japanese) Earning them a huge face-palm from me. In fact i doubt no one wouldn't do a face palm in this situation. Just plain dumb bimbo trying to attract they're attention.
Which brings me to this topic, DON'T have the thinking that all Koreans are good looking and superstars. They're mere commoner stop worshipping them just because the media shows otherwise. That's why i say, the korea media industry is planting wrong thoughts to people around the world. I can't change what others think through this post but hopefully it creates awareness to this ridiculous stereotype.

Evolution of suitable age to be pregnant

Do you still remember the time when women gets married between 14-19 and that 20 years old is considered too old to get married? Now reflect on the society these days where 14 is under aged, 19 is also too early and until 60 years old it's still not too old to get married. How times have change people's mindset. In modern days like today, women prefer work and higher education, marriage comes second. Some don't even care.

But i also realized more and more girls are getting pregnant and married at a young age of 17-19. It might still appear normal but to me i find it rather confusing.
I have few friends who once studied with me in college or high school and had to quit halfway cuz they were knocked up. They gave birth, married and never continued their education. I wonder if they even felt remorse or regrets about that. Maybe they like starting a family and be a home maker that depends on the husbands to provide them allowance. I rest my case then.
But what if they do feel regrets after having the baby? Many of these girls feel inferior to the husbands superiority of earning money, having a career and social life while they just gets stuck with the neighbours and mommy's club because they're friends are too busy studying and preparing for their own career. How will they feel that time? Will they feel that they should have controlled themselves and finish college, getting married before having a baby?
I mean fine! You have the teenage hormones urge to do it (have sex) but c'mon, protections are already available since long ago. Utilize it! Don't regret when you already found out it's too late and resort to baby dumping and abortion which i think it's just immoral and irresponsible. You put yourself into that situation, take full responsibility for your actions. Now that's out of the topic.
Being young but tied to responsibility as a mother is rather torturing. You are at the prime time of your life but you have to be stuck with a wailing baby the entire time. You see your friends having a wonderful time being single, carefree and a career. All just because you neglect to think of the consequences of unprotected sex. I'm just saying~~
I see friends and acquaintance making this mistake. My own mother went to college after she had me and my sister, leaving us with my grandmother and father. She later regrets it cuz she wasn't there for me during the crucial moments of my life. I never blamed her but she blames herself for not being able to guide me into a straight A student.

Jumping to conclusions too much?

I don't know if it's just me or does everyone have this kinda uh... bad habit? Do you ever read or watch this new character appearing then they'll do something that irritates you like maybe example:
-steal the heart of the lead character
-be a bitch
-do something really bad etc.
When that happens, you'll decide that you'll hate them for life. Then something happens and you decided again that you don't hate them that much after all. In fact you might just start to really like this character. So, do you experience this? I know I always do.
I'll give you an example, Uee from After School. I hated her character in "You're Beautiful" cuz she's really bitchy and at some point i decided that i really hate her. Then i saw in this reality show "We got married" and i realize she's actually a sweet girl in life- respect the elders, kind and stuff.
It struck me, I was too fast to jump to conclusion, it was just a character she's trying to portray and i let that got the better judgement of me. That's why i said in the previous post about first impression. They gave me a bad first impression thats why i jumped into conclusion. I know it's bad but I can't help.
A few more examples: Suou "Tan Tan" from Saiunkoku Monogatari, Aoi Chan from Kaichou Wa Maid Sama, Agent Brody from Charmed....
Similarly, this also happens the other way round. (SNSD fans DON'T read) Jessica from Snsd. I thought it was cool that she's brought up in the states, she's pretty, her english is good. For a while (just a short while), i liked her. Then slowly i realize some things that made me eventually uh... hate her. Her voice is so fake, her personality like a spoilt brat and bitchy.(i knew this from watching reality shows again) One can really see the true nature in a person, even if it's for the sake of the TV, they're original character can't be fake and you usually find the truth there. The Kardashians, Jersey Shore even Giuliana and Bill, they can fake it for the show but you see their real self and BTW I reaaally HATE the Kardashians, they're attention whores and will do almost anything to attract attention (Kim's divorce).
Just a suggestion, the next time you were to decide whether you like the celeb? Watch reality show.
        

First impressions

I don't need to tell everyone that first impressions are very important, not just during work but also your social life. When someone give others a bad first impression, they'll find it hard to climb back up to gain someone's liking. I see a few "friends" of mine having this kinda problem and i myself also face this. 
I'm usually shy and it usually takes sometime before i can be comfortable around to talk normally with others. So on first meeting, i give people the impression that I'm quiet and shy sometimes even serious and bored. It took me some time and effort to change their perspective as they will finally see who i really was when i interacted more with them. I still the same challenge even now.
My "friend", well, my first impression of her was she's rather uh.. pushy. She's gives the vibe of a demanding spoilt brat. She swore on the first day we met (not at me) That's her huge mistake. I don't like people who swears for nothing and she just manage to earn that ticket down loser ville from me. I lost almost all respect for her and the reason i still talk to her today was cuz I'm being kind. After some time she redeemed herself a little but mostly i still do avoid her. You can sense when you don't get along well with some people.
And may i mention, I have an acquaintance who met a girl that told her about her first sex experience on the first day they met. That's a HUGE no no. As much as people like being nosy about others personal life, there's a limit to how much info you can reveal to a person you just met. Something like that is definitely unnecessary and it just gives people the impression that you don't keep secrets well and you're defenceless. To show them your weaknesses on the first day itself? Usually it ends bad, i'd say~~
But then, I'm not telling you to be a hypocrite or act too out of your personal principle. People will eventually grow to hate you once they see the real you. Just be yourself and let them decide if they want to hang out with you. For what's worth, it's much better than having to face a fight in the future. 

Being a student

How are you as a student? I think mostly there are few category of being student. I forgot where i recalled seeing this meme about category of students, but anyway here's what i can think of.


First- the party hard, have great social life but fail miserably in exams students
Now these people i see quite a lot on campus. They are super active in sports, club, events, campaign you name it. They are also very friendly, talkative and sociable people who can talk to anyone with ease. Not to mention they never turn down an offer for dinner or supper at odd hours. Party? Meh~ they're the number one at it. So when it comes to studying? Well~~ i'll tell you this. They will always look tired during the day and would constantly be saying they wanna sleep. In class, they are sleeping, the only time when they stay awake is when the lecturer starts asking for answers to their question. Social life is their priority and when exams is near, then they'll crank till morning to study. As a result, most of them get average or bad grades (never good from what i see). They will skip class whenever they can and usually ends up in the "barred" list.  Oh, and they're always the popular ones.


Second- the study hard, bad social life and excel in studies students
Oh dear~~ i don't see much of these student around but there still is. These are the students that will really study everyday, shy away from dinner invitations and cooped up in their room with their head stuck in front of a book. In class they really listen and answer what the lecturer ask even when they don't need to. In a way, they're the smarty pants (usually the nerds too). They are very bad with people which means they feel awkward around people and sometimes they'll even do weird things (like mumble to themselves) They don't enjoy gatherings, activities and parties. You usually find them at the corner of the party looking around bewildered like a lost mouse. But they usually scored very well in exams, mostly they even have scholarships. These so called "nerds" will have vast knowledge but they are not street smart. Attendance? Full all year round~ squeaky clean near perfect record.


Third- the half study and half play type who have average scores and normal social life.
We call them the normal students. Enjoy outings as much as any other normal college student does but they also know they're priority which is studying and get a degree. Some are over ambitious but it's cool.  They're 
no smarty pants nor miss/mister popular. Like most of the students, they're lazy to study everyday and rejoice when class are cancelled. These people love hanging out with good friends than course mates. They sometimes skip class and then feel damn guilty about it then do last minute studying before midterms. In class, they pretend to listen but is actually already falling asleep or with a book hidden beneath their notes. When the lecturer ask for answers they'll look away and avoid any possible eye contact that will give them away. When test results are being released, it felt like receiving a time bomb instead of a lousy sheet of paper. 


Just for your info, i'm the third category student. Well, you can't just spend your whole college life with books and assignment. It's a time to mingle and get to know how the real world looks like. Gain some experience, enjoy before work gives you hell. :)